The Secret to Radical Self-Care is Emotional Sobriety


Self-care seems to be the new buzzword, with therapists and coaches telling us that we need to take more time for ourselves in order to live a healthier, happier life.

But what if we don't want self-care advice that we hear everywhere and we don't connect with?

What if we want radical self-care?

With "emotional sobriety" as its focus, Radical Self Care is not just about taking care of yourself; it's about remembering who you are and what your true needs are.

About Radical Self-Care

Radical self-care, as the title suggests, is all about self-care with a radical, revolutionary twist.

Radical Self Care is about being true to yourself and your needs - not what society or others say you should be doing.

We read many articles and books that tell us that we need to find time for ourselves, check-in with ourselves periodically, and take time to relax and revitalize. These are all good ideas.

But Radical Self Care is about being true to ourselves - what is right for us individually - because it is about knowing who we are, what our needs are, and whether we're being fed what we need to expand our lives in a way that feels right for us.

Radical Self Care introduces you to yourself.

Radical Self Care Defined

Radical Self Care is a concept based on the idea that, while taking time to care for yourself is important, it should go deeper than that.

It should be about being true to yourself, knowing yourself and your needs better, as well as addressing and healing the root problems that are holding you back in life.

Radical Self Care is about remembering who you are. It's about knowing what's important to you and acting on it. It's about letting yourself love more fully and completely.

When you take radical self-care, you spend time with yourself - not in front of the mirror, but deep within.

Your self-care can take many forms: yoga, meditation, writing, going for a hike in the woods…whatever works for you.

But the idea behind Radical Self Care is that it's not just about making yourself feel better or finding ways to relax; it's about taking care of yourself by being true to your feelings and needs.

You at the Core of Radical Self Care

There is a deep awakening at the core of each human being.

It is a light that shines through us when we are at our best and most connected to ourselves, others, and the world around us.

And it's this deep connection that allows you to experience your life and all its aspects - the good, bad, ugly and beautiful - in a way that doesn't feel heavy or burdensome.

Radical Self Care helps you to connect with your light - to reconnect with who you truly are.

It goes beyond feeling good, or being comfortable in your own skin. It means bringing the Goddess out, the woman who loves herself and knows who she is deep down inside.

Emotional Sobriety

The secret to Radicla Self Care is emotional sobriety. Emotional sobriety is your connection with yourself and the world around you in a way that allows you to be present and in touch with your feelings.

Emotional sobriety comes from confronting patterns of thought about yourself and others that keep you stuck. These thoughts have been unseen for a long time, and they pull you in the opposite direction of your True Self.

If you've been holding back or hiding out for so long that no one sees who you are, Radical Self Care addresses these hidden aspects of yourself and helps you to acknowledge them and, if needed, change them.

If there is guilt, blame, shame, fear or worry, then Radical Self Care allows for them to be. It is about embracing your own feelings and needs instead of pushing them down.

The beauty lies behind the thoughts and behind the feelings. There it is, shining like a bright star… YOU!

Radical Self Care and Emotional Sobriety Work Together

Emotional sobriety is about creating space for you to take care of yourself. It means not indulging in the excesses of your emotions, the same way you wouldn't indulge in unhealthy habits like drinking too much alcohol or eating too much junk food.

Emotional sobriety is about being present and in touch with yourself and your feelings. It allows you to feel and express your feelings and needs without having to push them away or pretend to be something you're not.

For example, you can express and feel your anger or fear without blowing up at someone or running away. This is emotional sobriety - being present with your feelings, but not letting them overwhelm you.

Or you can listen to the voice in your head that tells you that you'll never be loved and not get sucked into believing it. This is emotional sobriety.

Or you can notice how something feels in your gut and let yourself experience it without judging yourself for feeling it. This is emotional sobriety.

In a way, Radical Self Care is about giving your feelings the space and freedom to exist, without having to spend all your energy on thinking about them.

Author: Patri Hernandez

Klarity Health Library Co-Founder and Self-Care Advocate
Patri is currently training at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition to become a Health Coach. She runs and manages Oh Mighty Health.

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